How to Tell If He's Ready to Commit Within the First 72 Hours of Meeting Him

...So you can stop wasting your times on dudes who 'aren't ready for anything serious.' Girl meets boy, girl likes boy, boy disappears when things get too serious. It's the UGH-inducing plotline so many women have experienced at one point or another. The good news is that you might be able to spot those dudes before they actually say the words, "I'm not looking for a relationship." Here, the plain and simple signs that he has major boyfriend potential. #TheMoreYouKnowTo the untrained eye, a guy who's eager to spend time with you—like all the time—might seem like he's interested in a relationship. But really, it could be the sign that he's more interested in hooking up than hanging out and getting to know you, says psychologist and dating coach Jennifer B. Rhodes, Psy.D. If you spend every minute of your first weekend together, there's a chance he'll go AWOL if he loses interest, she says. When a guy thinks he's found someone he could commit to, he'll be respectful of her time and follow her lead, says Rhodes. If he's into you, you should expect him to reach out to you within about three days of meeting him, she says. Though hearing from him sooner is fine, if he seems to be rushing into hanging out all the time, push back a little and see if he's cool with waiting to see you again, she says. If he's willing, he might be a keeper.RELATED: 8 Things Girls In New Relationships Do But Will Never Admit ToRelationship-friendly guys will respond to your texts and calls within 24 hours, says Rhodes. And if you tell him to call you, he actually dials your number, rather than sending a text. If he takes longer than three days to respond or replies late at night, he's probably interested in something casual or just sex and not a full-blown relationship, she says. Emotionally mature men—or the guys that you actually want to date—are upfront about their intentions within the first few dates, she says. If you were chatting at a bar, he might say something like "I had a great time talking to you tonight and would love to take you out. I'll call you this weekend."Within the first two days of meeting a guy, you should be talking about more than your favorite workout classes and Game of Thrones, says Rhodes. A guy who's not afraid of a little commitment wants to know about your family, where you grew up, your religious beliefs, and how you spend the holidays, says Rhodes. He might also dig into serious topics, like your religious beliefs, she says. Go ahead and ask him some open-ended questions about his background, says Rhodes. He shouldn't get skittish if he's a one-woman kind of guy, she says.RELATED: 12 Awkward Things That Happen in EVERY New RelationshipAny dude who vents his frustrations about an ex or refuses to accept some responsibility for the breakup isn't ready to be in a serious relationship, says Rhodes. If he says anything beyond "we wanted different things" or whines about his ex-girlfriends' behavior, it means he's probably not over her or mature enough for the kind of relationship you want. Plus, if he's shaming his last girlfriend, he might suck at communication—which is vital for any adult relationship, says Judy Rosenberg, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and dating coach.RELATED: 7 Reasons a Guy Will Break Things Off—Even When He's Actually Into YouA man who's always in touch with his friends and family is one who's capable of a healthy romantic relationship, says Rosenberg. To figure out if he fits the bill within the first 48 hours, ask him how often he gets together with his parents, siblings, and pals and what they're like. You can also do a little digging to see if his friends are spoken for or not—since he's more likely to put a ring on someone if his friends are already hitched, she says. One other very important relationship: the one he has with his cat . If he's caring for another creature or recalls any funny stories about Whiskers, there's a good chance he's not afraid of commitment.

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