Definitive Proof That the 3-Date Sex Rule Is Total B.S.

7 relationships that dispel the myth you can’t hop right into bed Whether you're a budding reality TV star in search of love on The Bachelorette or a regular gal who dates by way of OkCupid, nobody deserves to have her sex life scrutinized for how long she did or didn't wait to sleep with a guy. Having sex with a man you're still getting to know is every woman's prerogative, and sometimes it leads to something more. As proof, here are seven women who got busy with guys they'd just met—and ended up developing a relationship out of it."I've been dating my current boyfriend for just over a year and a half, and on the first night we met I slept with him. I've never had an experience like that develop into something serious, but this is the one unique situation where it did. I was visiting a friend who wanted me to meet a guy she recently began dating, and when we were leaving his apartment, another guy walked by who I thought was cute. It was my friend's boyfriend's neighbor, so she proceeded to invite him to the bar with us. He arrived an hour later, and we immediately started chatting. We talked about everything, but mainly our love for traveling. I was a bit drunk by the end of the night and remember him inviting me back to his place, but he now says he's 100 percent convinced that I invited myself back, which is very possible—I can be a bit forward when I'm out and really hit it off with someone. Either way, it was just a casual, 'Wanna get out of here?' type of invitation. I felt comfortable with him right away; it was just so easy to talk with him and share things about myself. The morning after, we chatted in bed for a bit and then went back to my friend's boyfriend's apartment, where he got us all coffee and breakfast. The leaving part was a bit awkward. I gave him a kiss goodbye and said I had a great night and that I hoped to see him again. Since I'm never one to give my number out, I was hoping he'd give me his...but nope. A day later, my friend texted me saying he'd asked for my number from her boyfriend, and I got so excited. I waited about three days before he texted, and from there we started texting and flirting and visiting each other. Right now, I have to say, things are pretty wonderful. We have so much in common—food, movies, books, sense of humor—and get along great. He has met my whole family, and we are just enjoying every minute we spend with each other. Crazy to think that one night at a bar actually led to something so authentic and wonderful." —Lisa F.RELATED: Your Step-by-Step Guide to Hot Wedding One-Night Stands"I slept with my boyfriend the first night we met and have loved him every day since. Literally, some love at first sight sh*t. We met at a bar in Boston. My best friend's brother-in-law was attempting to set me up with a co-worker, and it wasn't going well. I had been checking out another guy at the bar. My slightly intoxicated and fearless friend went over and brought him back to an embarrassed but giddy me. He was sweet, a little shy. He ended up talking with us for a long time, and when his friends left, he decided to stay. We hit up another bar where we kissed and I decided that we had chemistry, he seemed like a super sweet guy, and I felt safe bringing him back to my apartment. At the time, I lived with my sister, so I didn't worry about bringing someone back who I just met. I let my friend know we were taking off, and she requested that I text her when I was home. I think it’s important to be as safe as possible when you’re out, but if you never take a chance on a stranger, how would you know if he or she was your soul mate? We slept together that night, and while we had been drinking, it wasn’t like we had blackout sex that we wouldn't remember. We cuddled and slept together in a way that felt very normal, despite not knowing each other that well. Waking up in the morning wasn’t awkward, either—we laughed and chatted about the night before, and the fact that he remembered not only my name but my best friend's name was a major plus in my book. We exchanged numbers and kissed goodbye. He texted me the next day letting me know he had a great time and would like to take me out on a date the next weekend. We continued to go on dates, he would come over and we would binge watch 'Breaking Bad' and make dinner—and all the while we slept together. We fell into a routine very quickly, and a month later I asked him if he was my boyfriend. He said, 'Of course I'm your boyfriend.' So we made it official. A month later, I drunkenly whispered, 'I love you,' in bed, but then got quiet and pretended I didn’t say it. He told me that he loved me too and he had been wanting to tell me, as well. So we boned on the first date and are so happy and in love. I'm responsible and in control of my sex life and find sex to be an incredible way to connect with another person. Having sex on the first date is, in my experience, an excellent way to determine chemistry right off the bat, and should in no way discourage a future relationship. If the guy or gal you slept with on a first date deemed you a 'slut' for doing so, and therefore wrote you off their list for potential partners, you wouldn't want to be with that person anyway because it takes two to tango and healthy, safe, consensual sex should never be a source of shame." —Colleen M."I met Grant in church. He was a guest speaker giving the sermon and I was instantly attracted to him. He came back a month later, again as the guest speaker, and said he'd like to get together with me to talk about writing. I suggested he come over for dinner. I don't remember what I cooked but I do remember that the conversation never did get around to writing. We wound up in bed. I woke up feeling good about the whole thing and eager to see him again. We started dating pretty regularly but things progressed, in a word: slowly. He broke up with me three times within the first year. Once it was because we were getting too close for his comfort—in his own words, he found a real relationship 'scary.' And twice it was because an old girlfriend came back into his life—the same woman both times. Both times she eventually kicked him to the curb and he came back to me. I have no false pride. I loved him, I wanted him in my life, and I was happy to have him back. I was not going to spurn him because of a wounded ego. It will be eight years in September that we've been living together. Is it a perfect relationship? No. Am I mostly happy? Yes. Did I ever regret having first-date sex with him? Hell, no!" —Cynthia M.RELATED: So This is When You're More Likely to Have a One Night Stand"I met my current boyfriend at a bar. I was visiting friends and my sister during a college homecoming. Jordan was there visiting his brother. We found out we lived two hours away from each other so we exchanged numbers and continued to talk and text. Two weeks later, I drove two hours to see him at an Ohio State football game on a date. Once I saw him again, I got the butterflies and our conversation flowed. There was so much immediate chemistry. About halfway through the game, I knew that there was a very likely chance that I would be going home with Jordan, not necessarily to sleep with him, but I knew that would be a possibility. I was nervous, but for some reason I trusted him. Like any football game, there was drinking before and after, so that very much contributed to my ultimate decision to sleep with him. From then on we made plans to see each other almost every weekend. We've been together since and just bought a house together in Fort Lauderdale, Florida." —Cassandra C. "What I thought would be my first real one-night stand turned into being the man I want to marry. We met at a bar in San Francisco. My girlfriends dragged me out after Sunday brunch to watch US vs. Portugal. I could have cared less about the soccer game and was definitely in no mood to meet any guys considering my round of bad luck in the dating scene. This guy saw me enter the bar and couldn't take his eyes off me. He was with his group of friends and I did my best to avoid eye contact until he approached my friend at the bar. He told her to bring her friends over. Hesitant at first, I made my way over to join them. They ended up being a very funny group. We kept cracking jokes, laughing, and drinking. I probably had three too many mojitos and we decided to move onto the next round of bars. Somehow, all our friends got split up and it was just the two of us telling each other our life stories, our dreams, aspirations. We connected on a level I've never felt with anyone else. We eventually went back to his apartment. I didn't plan on sleeping with him and alcohol probably had a lot to do with it, but we couldn't keep our hands off each other. The sex was amazing! We didn't want to part ways and he even tried to make future plans with me which I thought was really sweet but didn't buy it. After he dropped me off at home, I passed out in my bed. I honestly didn't expect to ever see him again. I sent him a quick 'It was nice to meet you' text the next morning; he replied with a long paragraph telling me he meant everything he said last night and wants to explore life with me. As flattered as I was, I was also skeptical. This guy was too good to be true: handsome, educated, and absolutely hilarious. I told my friends he had to be a serial killer. We ended up going out on dates and I just had this feeling deep down that he was the one. I stopped thinking it was too good to be true and just went with it. We have already traveled together, met each other's parents, and expressed how we want to spend our lives together. He is my best friend, my lover, and partner in adventure. We just celebrated our one-year anniversary." —Danielle B. RELATED: 7 Times When Casual Sex Is Actually a Good Idea"Two years ago, I was at several non-profit events and noticed a handsome gentleman who always seemed to be seated close by. After taking a picture together he asked for my phone number to send me the shot. After a few weeks of messaging, he asked me on a formal date. He made reservations at a beautiful restaurant and we went salsa dancing afterward. Conversation flowed so easily, the chemistry was inevitable and the sexual tension had been building for quite some time. We went back to his place and had an extremely passionate night. The next morning, he took me for coffee and even drove me to court for a traffic ticket. As we were parting ways, he said he was a serial monogamist and we decided to only be with each other at that point. We have been together ever since, this Saturday will be our two-year 'sexiversary.'" —Tabitha S."I slept with my boyfriend on the second date. We met on E-Harmony. I let him pick me up, which is normally a 'no no' in my book, but I was oddly comfortable with it. He walked to the door and I kissed him, our first kiss. That second date seemed like we had been together forever. We couldn't take our hands off each other. And not even in a sexual way, just wanting to touch and cuddle and peck. He came back to my house and we made out. Then one thing led to another and yada yada yada... We were up until about 4 a.m. and I decided to call in sick at work the next day. Part of me wanted to keep snuggling, the other part of me was exhausted. He had taken vacation that week, so he didn't have to work either. We slept in and then went and had lunch. I didn't want it to end—it was the most connected I had ever felt. I grew up in an environment where sex was never shameful, so I never felt as though there needed to be rules of when or how. I just always follow my gut in the moment. Stay safe and hope for the best. I have done that through every twist and turn of our relationship, follow my gut and hope for the best, and I still continue with that philosophy. Now, we've been together for two years and own a healthcare based fitness studio." —Meghann P.

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